Why Does Everything Go Wrong For Me? Part 1

Have you ever asked yourself the question, ‘Why do bad things keep happening to me’? If the truth be known, bad things do not always happen to any of us, it just seems to be that way. The more we see it that way, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.                                                                                            Asking Questions

Things go wrong and bad things happen to good people because they are not aware of how life works.

‘If you change the way you look at things the things you look at will change’ – Dr Robert Anthony

Imagine someone, ‘a good person’ let’s say, spending their time and effort doing things they think they should, ought to or must do, be or have as it is expected of them. It could be anything. But to make it more specific let’s say this person is doing a job she dislikes. She feels she has to do it for financial gain and because it is expected of her. However, she is unhappy in the process of doing her job. It is not what she desires to do.

But Why? What is she doing wrong?

This person, let’s call her Joan, (Joe to her friends), has an idea of what she would rather be doing with her life. Suffice to know she wants out of what she is currently doing as she is not fulfilled. She often remembers that even at school and later at collage it seemed like nothing ever worked out right however hard she tried. It may initially seem OK, but soon everything would go wrong and she always lost interest. But how can she walk away from her high paying job to do a hobby? She is no longer a child and she is not insane!

Joan is a highly paid lawyer, there is much incentive to go up higher on the bank-noteladder, she refuses to take it. She thinks she should leave this employment and start afresh elsewhere. She said the same thing about her first 2 jobs as well. This one was going to be better. She’s among the ‘right people’, in the ‘right location’ and at the ‘right firm’ and yet here she is thinking exactly what she has been thinking for years now, ‘Why does everything go wrong for me’?

How It All Started…

Joan has a passion for writing children’s stories and drawing cartoon like pictures. Sometimes she would write the stories and then draw the pictures to go with the stories. At other times she would reverse the process. Either way, she was always pleased with the end results as both the story and the pictures would come together. She would spend hours on end doing her creations as she called them as a child. Occasionally in school a friend would comment, ‘Joe, that sketch is beautiful’! Joan beamed. Every spare moment she would be seen drawing her sketches and writing yet another story. She was in the sweet spot doing this.

She has been doing this since she was about 9 years old. Her parents thought it was cute at first until she was about age 14 and they told her she needed to focus on something that could pay her enough money to buy a house and pay her bills. They told her writers were not recognized until after they were dead, so there was no future in what she enjoyed doing.

Gradually, Joan became discouraged and she set her passion aside to concentrate on qualifications to get a ‘good job’. Her grades were always good in school, she was very articulate, organized and determined. She progressed to Law school and got her degree with honours, (honors). Her parents were proud of Courther. She was a high achiever and each of her family members were convinced she would ‘become a good lawyer, just like her father is’.

Occasionally Joan’s childhood passion would come knocking at her heart and as she allowed herself to dwell on it, it felt good and it always brought a smile to her face. Then she would remember, ‘writers’ works do not earn money or recognition until after they are dead’. She would detach herself from her dream and she always had a feeling of deep regret, a longing and a yearning. If only things could be different. Everything goes wrong for me, she thought yet again.

Joan’s New Friend and Mentor:

Joan requested a transfer to a different area of the Law firm. She ‘needed a change of environment,’ she told her surprised colleagues to their questions of why was she leaving?

She was introduced to Mary on her first day, Mary was responsible for orientating Joan to that new department. Meeting Mary was like meeting a long lost friend. A bond was formed seemingly effortlessly between them.

They started going for lunches together and even on weekends they would go to a park and just sit and talked for hours. Over the months, Mary detected that there was something making Joan rather unhappy. Eventually Joe opened up and confided in Mary about her childhood passion that just would not go away.

Mary encouraged Joe to pursue her writing again, as nothing else would satisfypen her heart’s desire. Joe did not see how this could be done.

The following Monday morning Mary handed Joe a paper bag and told her to have a look at and a listen to the contents. She would discuss them with her once she returned from her annual leave in 2 weeks. The Book was entitled, ‘The Secret’ and the audio set was entitled The Secret of Deliberate Creation.

Joe spent that entire weekend reading and listening to things that were new to her. The book was about how we create our own realities using what’s called The Law of Attraction. The audios were about Quantum Physics, energy, removing self-sabotage, the subconscious mind, how to know what we want in life and how to obtain it, among other things. Joan was shocked and excited all at the same time. This was totally new information to her. She devoured these materials for many months.

Joe found out that as long as her, ‘I have to do this job’ was coming from her mind instead of her passion flowing from her heart, her life would be frustrating, unfulfilling, depressing and downright miserable.

Joe knew she has been living out of her head and not out of her heart. She knew what was in her heart since she was a child. She just never knew she had a choice and could decide to follow her heart doing what she loved and that there were Laws of the Universe to support her following her heart.

She cried herself to sleep for a few nights. These were tears of joy, she never felt so free, at least, not since her childhood.

Joan’s story Part 2.

Thank you for reading and sharing your thoughts below.

EJ   **